Blasting the Myths of Psychotherapy

“So what do you do for a living?”

The inevitable question asked at any social gathering. Though typically an
innocuous question, I find myself dreading it. This is probably due to the flash of
fear I often see upon the word, “Psychotherapist.” Sometimes, people are even
bold enough to ask, “So are you analyzing me right now?” Unfortunately, this is
reflective of one of the many myths that continue to persist around this
profession. So I’ve taken on the task of blasting some of those myths and hoping
to provide a clearer understanding of what this therapy business is all about.

Myth #1: Therapy is For Crazy People

Granted, the use of the prefix psycho to describe the profession has not helped
matters, but the truth is that most psychotherapists, including myself, see people
that are generally healthy and functional. Most decide to pursue therapy because
they want more for themselves, whether it is to feel better, to make sense of their
lives or to improve their situation.

Just over a generation ago, it used to be that extended family and friends played
the role of counselor in most situations, and therapy was reserved for those who
had serious mental disorders. Today, in our busy society of broken homes and
interpersonal isolation, a therapist often serves many roles including guide,
counselor supporter and advisor.

Myth #2: Therapy is About Being Analyzed

“Hmmm…very interesting…” This phrase conjures up the outdated picture of the
client lying on the couch with the therapist sitting off to the side distractedly
stroking his beard (it was always a him back then).

Sigmund Freud is the grandfather of the treatment and understanding of mental
health and disorders. The form of treatment that evolved from his research,
which at one time was the only approach to treatment, was called
Psychoanalysis. This became the springboard for other forms of treatment
approaches, which today number close to 300. Though Psychoanalysis is still
used by specially trained clinicians and provides a valuable knowledge base, it is
just one approach and often seen as outdated and impractical in its traditional
form.

Most of today’s therapy involves a team approach toward working toward goals,
not being psychologically dissected. The healing and growth in therapy offices of
today usually emerge out of the relationship between therapist and client, where
the emphasis is on humanity, empathy, honor and respectful dialogue. In fact, In
some practices, consumer has replaced the term patient.
Finally, therapy is about self-knowledge; expanding one’s reference and
perspective regarding themselves and those around them. Therapy is for those
interested and invested in addressing the questions, Who Am I? How Did I Get
Here and Where Am I Going?

Myth #3: Therapy is an Excuse for People to Just Sit Around and Talk About
Themselves and Their Past

The truth of the matter is that You are the central figure of your life and most of
us operate within narrowly and externally defined concepts of the truth of who we
are. Seeking this truth can be a profoundly transformational journey that goes
way beyond a self-absorbed rap session.

Today, therapy is an active and dynamic process. Though talking is an integral
part of the therapeutic process, and the past can be a valuable resource for
understanding present-day challenges; insight, accountability, active participation
and integration are often emphasized. In addition, adjuncts to traditional talk
therapies such as Body-Centered Therapies like Bioenergetics, Hypnosis and
EMDR are just some of the approaches being used to facilitate and expedite the
therapy process.

Myth #4: Therapy Takes Forever

In the days of Psychoanalysis, therapy required 5 sessions a week, often for
many years. It was a rigid process based on a power differential between Doctor
and Patient. Today, flexibility reigns. Therapist and client are generally
considered equal partners determining mutually agreed upon schedules, tasks
and goals.

To give you an example, a gentleman came see me recently because he was
confused about an issue regarding his relationship with his parents. He said he
had a sense of the source of the problem, but needed confirmation and clarity.
An hour later, he said he felt relieved and confident he could handle the situation
appropriately. He also expressed gratitude for my presence as a resource should
he need my services again. Sometimes this is all that’s needed. However, most
situations are more complex and involve a more comprehensive treatment
approach. In other cases, some people come to therapy wanting a deep level of
understanding and change in many areas, which can take longer. Ultimately, the
frequency and length of therapy is dependent on the client’s needs and goals.

Myth #5: Therapy Is Too Expensive

Many therapist’s work on a sliding fee scale, or can refer you to someone who
does, and a large percentage of insurance companies now provide mental health
coverage.

The way we feel about ourselves and our lives and the quality of our
relationships all contribute to the happiness and satisfaction we experience in
life. When these elements are out of balance, it can seriously compromise our
physical, mental and emotional states. Therapy can assist in understanding how
things got out of balance in the first place, and help create a more satisfying way
of relating to others and ourselves.

I read somewhere once: “You can’t afford not to invest in your emotional health.”
It is interesting that we don’t hesitate to invest in cars and computers; what we
put in and on our bodies, but we seem to resist the idea of investing in our
emotional health and well-being.

Final Thoughts

The final truth is that people that call themselves psychotherapists are just that,
people. We do not have all the answers, we cannot read minds and we are not
gurus or sages. We have education and training in mental health and we have a
desire to assist others in healing emotional pain and removing obstacles to
achieving a higher level of happiness and satisfaction in their lives.

So it is my hope that by dispelling some of the myths around psychotherapy, I
have provided a better understanding of its history, purpose and potential for
healing.